We have all heard the phrase, "You have to love your self first". As a professional psychic, I have heard this quite a bit over the years. As a clairvoyant, I can "see" or "feel" what is actually happening in a person's life and what they can do to get more balance in their lives if they really want to change to occur.
Most people seem to say it more than once in their life, but fail to realize what it actually takes to begin the process of loving one's self. This is a monumental job which most people are undner-qualified to take one. When the phrase, 'You have to start by loving yourself' is used on a person who is already overwhelmed, they usually just tune it out because they have no idea how to being the act of taking care of the self.
Most of the time when we hear, "You have to love yourself first", the person saying it is trying to help. Unfortunately, what often actually happens is just the opposite of the intention behind the comment. The emotional damage increases as the person experiencing the pain feels even more alone.
People need to realize what message they are really sending when they say well-intended things. The person receiving it can feel that you really don't understand the pain they are feeling, which can cause them to withdraw into themselves because no one understands.
1. I'm fed up with hearing your complaints and worries
2. If you would just act on what I tell you, everything would work out for you
3. Quit complaining and do something about it
4. I cannot do anything about your problem, so just do what I tell you
Generally, the person who is in trouble recoils, feels rejected and begins to isolate themselves because they are not being heard which results in the pain increasing. That's when psychics usually hear from clients; when they are at their wit's end and want help in resolving the problem.
What people really need in these challenging situations, is to begin the process of treating the 'self' well. This means they begin by taking the first step of action. Below is a metaphorical story that is easy to understand:
You suddenly turn around because your small, screaming child is being assaulted by three older children on a playground. Your immediate reaction causes an action for you to run over, take them by the hand and immediately remove them from this negative situation. You saved their "self" from further demolition by holding, hugging and helping them to feel safe. They is now protected and secure once again.
As adults, we have all been in negative situations in life, and most of us learn to pull away from them on our own. An emotionally healthy adult will avoid the next similar circumstance. But, for many, they will stay in a bad situation, hoping that it will go away on its own without them having to do anything.
When things don't change, it is because no action has been taken has been taken. The cycle begins again, over and over until we are desperate for change and don't know what to do, where to go or who to turn to. Why? The answer to this is because we were not taught how to save our "selves". We complain to our friends, hairdressers, neighbors, counselors, therapists or doctors and still, nothing improves the situation. The act of loving yourself means taking your "self" out of a bad situation by grabbing your own hand and moving to higher ground. Other actions can include things like:
1. Remove your 'self' from the negative circumstances
2. Do things like getting involved in something you have passion for, like a hobby, taking that class, or finishing a degree.
Psychic readings can help people see that you are only as trapped as you feel. They try to open up the person so that they, too, can see that they have the ability to change the situation. Professional psychics will get you to see that hope is not a good strategy and that it is up to the person to take the step that has been pointed out to them.
Remember, if you don't treat your "self" well, why should anyone else want to?
Most people seem to say it more than once in their life, but fail to realize what it actually takes to begin the process of loving one's self. This is a monumental job which most people are undner-qualified to take one. When the phrase, 'You have to start by loving yourself' is used on a person who is already overwhelmed, they usually just tune it out because they have no idea how to being the act of taking care of the self.
Most of the time when we hear, "You have to love yourself first", the person saying it is trying to help. Unfortunately, what often actually happens is just the opposite of the intention behind the comment. The emotional damage increases as the person experiencing the pain feels even more alone.
People need to realize what message they are really sending when they say well-intended things. The person receiving it can feel that you really don't understand the pain they are feeling, which can cause them to withdraw into themselves because no one understands.
1. I'm fed up with hearing your complaints and worries
2. If you would just act on what I tell you, everything would work out for you
3. Quit complaining and do something about it
4. I cannot do anything about your problem, so just do what I tell you
Generally, the person who is in trouble recoils, feels rejected and begins to isolate themselves because they are not being heard which results in the pain increasing. That's when psychics usually hear from clients; when they are at their wit's end and want help in resolving the problem.
What people really need in these challenging situations, is to begin the process of treating the 'self' well. This means they begin by taking the first step of action. Below is a metaphorical story that is easy to understand:
You suddenly turn around because your small, screaming child is being assaulted by three older children on a playground. Your immediate reaction causes an action for you to run over, take them by the hand and immediately remove them from this negative situation. You saved their "self" from further demolition by holding, hugging and helping them to feel safe. They is now protected and secure once again.
As adults, we have all been in negative situations in life, and most of us learn to pull away from them on our own. An emotionally healthy adult will avoid the next similar circumstance. But, for many, they will stay in a bad situation, hoping that it will go away on its own without them having to do anything.
When things don't change, it is because no action has been taken has been taken. The cycle begins again, over and over until we are desperate for change and don't know what to do, where to go or who to turn to. Why? The answer to this is because we were not taught how to save our "selves". We complain to our friends, hairdressers, neighbors, counselors, therapists or doctors and still, nothing improves the situation. The act of loving yourself means taking your "self" out of a bad situation by grabbing your own hand and moving to higher ground. Other actions can include things like:
1. Remove your 'self' from the negative circumstances
2. Do things like getting involved in something you have passion for, like a hobby, taking that class, or finishing a degree.
Psychic readings can help people see that you are only as trapped as you feel. They try to open up the person so that they, too, can see that they have the ability to change the situation. Professional psychics will get you to see that hope is not a good strategy and that it is up to the person to take the step that has been pointed out to them.
Remember, if you don't treat your "self" well, why should anyone else want to?
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