During our day to day lives, we go from one task to another blissfully unaware of the strength of our subconsciousness. We also have very little understanding of how our actions, or lack thereof, are affecting our accomplishments. Or we may simply succumb to admitting that we simply don't have what it takes to accomplish our goal, whether the reason is having bad luck or bad skills. But is this really "the truth?"
But what many people fail to realize is that they are actually creating their own circumstances through subconscious self-sabotage (so in other words they have no idea they're actually creating their own problems).
But since our subconsciousness is just that, a subconsciousness, it's seemingly out of our control. But that's a fallacy. We can counter our subconscious self-sabotage by using our conscious awareness; we need to take a deeper look into how we feel and what we fear - but we have to do this on an intellectual level (which doesn't mean you need to be a genius by the way). By doing this we're able to pinpoint any reason for behaving that is counter-intuitive to our ambitions. Once we realize what the issue is, it's much easier to plan the next step in overcoming our self-sabotage. But in order to recognize the issue, we need to know exactly what happens we sabotage ourselves.
Many times people simply fail to consistency make an effort towards what they say they want. For example, when we want to lose weight, we start out with an unrealistic level of expectation and excitement and expect very good results in a short period of time. We try different diets and push really hard when doing exercise (if we do any at all!) But guess what happens when the pounds don't melt away on the first day, week or month? Guess when happens when we look in mirror and don't see a supermodel or body of an Adonis looking back? Yep, you guessed it. We give up. We don't work harder. We just throw in the towel instead. But what if this reaction is giving us some kind of excuse for failure? Maybe we say we want to lose weight but really we just want to try, fail and complain. It's easier than dieting and exercising! If you're saying you want to get trim, taut and traffic but you eat junk food and skip exercises then you're sabotaging. Simple as that. But it's easier to make excuses isn't it? Doing the hard work is always unappealing. That's why it's called "hard work!"
Self-sabotage might also occur when we fear what other people will think of our efforts or we fear the results of actually achieving the goal. When you're worried about the consequences of your efforts (even if they are good) we tend to act in ways that will ensure failure. This doesn't mean we're aware we're doing it. Quite the opposite in fact. Self-sabotage means we are blissfully unaware that we are preventing ourselves from succeeding. We trick our mind into thinking that we're doing everything absolutely right. The key is to take some time and think for a minute about how you are behaving? Do you say you want something but do things that are inconsistent with that ambition? Do you say you want to get some work done but do anything else but the work? Do you feel that you just cannot accomplish your goals even if you try as hard as you possibly can? Do you feel you may not be worthy of your goal?
Time for some good news! We can all overcome this self-sabotage mess. The very first thing you need to do is understand when it's happening - easy right? Wrong! But it can be achieved with deep understanding and conscious awareness of your emotions, thoughts and fears. It's about being brutally honest with yourself. It's about holding yourself to the highest account possible. It's about deciding that your goal is more important than letting yourself off the hook time after time.
You may have tried to accomplish something for a long time without success. If this is true, it may be time to stop and think for a while. Think back. What kind of setbacks and obstacles have you experienced? If you were to experience that right now, would another, perhaps wiser, choice be to enough to overcome that obstacle? Recognize the patterns; is there a certain type of obstacle that's constantly holding you back? Could it be that a certain fear is preventing you from succeeding? Ask yourself: "Why would I sabotage my ways to accomplishment?" This might be able to give you an answer to your problems.
When we finally understand that we are in control of our own success, we will be set free from all limitations! By developing clarity and insight about the outcomes we want to create, and the awareness for potential setbacks, we can stop the self-sabotage and focus our energies on working toward new goals that we will fully support in every way. We will then look back one day and see that instead of being our own worst saboteur, we have become our best supporter.
But what many people fail to realize is that they are actually creating their own circumstances through subconscious self-sabotage (so in other words they have no idea they're actually creating their own problems).
But since our subconsciousness is just that, a subconsciousness, it's seemingly out of our control. But that's a fallacy. We can counter our subconscious self-sabotage by using our conscious awareness; we need to take a deeper look into how we feel and what we fear - but we have to do this on an intellectual level (which doesn't mean you need to be a genius by the way). By doing this we're able to pinpoint any reason for behaving that is counter-intuitive to our ambitions. Once we realize what the issue is, it's much easier to plan the next step in overcoming our self-sabotage. But in order to recognize the issue, we need to know exactly what happens we sabotage ourselves.
Many times people simply fail to consistency make an effort towards what they say they want. For example, when we want to lose weight, we start out with an unrealistic level of expectation and excitement and expect very good results in a short period of time. We try different diets and push really hard when doing exercise (if we do any at all!) But guess what happens when the pounds don't melt away on the first day, week or month? Guess when happens when we look in mirror and don't see a supermodel or body of an Adonis looking back? Yep, you guessed it. We give up. We don't work harder. We just throw in the towel instead. But what if this reaction is giving us some kind of excuse for failure? Maybe we say we want to lose weight but really we just want to try, fail and complain. It's easier than dieting and exercising! If you're saying you want to get trim, taut and traffic but you eat junk food and skip exercises then you're sabotaging. Simple as that. But it's easier to make excuses isn't it? Doing the hard work is always unappealing. That's why it's called "hard work!"
Self-sabotage might also occur when we fear what other people will think of our efforts or we fear the results of actually achieving the goal. When you're worried about the consequences of your efforts (even if they are good) we tend to act in ways that will ensure failure. This doesn't mean we're aware we're doing it. Quite the opposite in fact. Self-sabotage means we are blissfully unaware that we are preventing ourselves from succeeding. We trick our mind into thinking that we're doing everything absolutely right. The key is to take some time and think for a minute about how you are behaving? Do you say you want something but do things that are inconsistent with that ambition? Do you say you want to get some work done but do anything else but the work? Do you feel that you just cannot accomplish your goals even if you try as hard as you possibly can? Do you feel you may not be worthy of your goal?
Time for some good news! We can all overcome this self-sabotage mess. The very first thing you need to do is understand when it's happening - easy right? Wrong! But it can be achieved with deep understanding and conscious awareness of your emotions, thoughts and fears. It's about being brutally honest with yourself. It's about holding yourself to the highest account possible. It's about deciding that your goal is more important than letting yourself off the hook time after time.
You may have tried to accomplish something for a long time without success. If this is true, it may be time to stop and think for a while. Think back. What kind of setbacks and obstacles have you experienced? If you were to experience that right now, would another, perhaps wiser, choice be to enough to overcome that obstacle? Recognize the patterns; is there a certain type of obstacle that's constantly holding you back? Could it be that a certain fear is preventing you from succeeding? Ask yourself: "Why would I sabotage my ways to accomplishment?" This might be able to give you an answer to your problems.
When we finally understand that we are in control of our own success, we will be set free from all limitations! By developing clarity and insight about the outcomes we want to create, and the awareness for potential setbacks, we can stop the self-sabotage and focus our energies on working toward new goals that we will fully support in every way. We will then look back one day and see that instead of being our own worst saboteur, we have become our best supporter.
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