These days because of technology and busy lifestyles, relationships are often taken for granted and communication has turned into small words and instant messages. It is because of this that communication is not very good between the parties anymore which could lead to a lot fights and big issues. It is actually during this type of situation that some relationship coaching services may definitely come in handy.
Now in the event that one would have a strained relationship, he would usually ignore it and think that it would fix itself in no time. What many people do not take into consideration is that people have feelings and if those feelings are not let out and fixed immediately, then negative behavior will spring out. Of course the coaches have to fix this before the negative behavior will have a chance to get out.
Basically, they will only be giving three options to the clients depending on their assessment of the client. These choices would be to fix the relationship, just let go of it, or just create a new one with somebody else. Now the first thing that the coach would do would be to simply to talk to the client to know what is really happening.
Of course the coach cannot only look at one side of the coin as there are other people who are involved in the case. So aside from talking to the client directly, it is important that the coaches talk to the other affected parties along with the client. So for example, if the client has a problem with the wife, the client has to bring the wife.
Now when assessing the relationships of people, he has to make sure he knows what the main problem is or simply put, the root of all evil. After he has done this, then he will have to have an individual session with both of them so that he will know what they think individually. By speaking to them individually, he will be able to get them to talk more objectively.
After he has already done this, then the very next thing to do would be come up with strategies or activities. Of course one is most likely familiar with the open forum wherein both parties are allowed to say anything. However, the counsellor has to make sure that he mediates it because it can turn ugly if uncontrolled.
Now there would also be the positive reinforcement activity wherein one would have to write some positive traits about the other person and vice versa. After writing them down, they will discuss about these things. After the positive things are done, then next would be the negative things.
Of course there will be times wherein the parties just cannot reconcile anymore but do not want to terminate each other. Now in this type of situation, the coach will just suggest that they give each other a lot of space. That way, they can still visit each other but not have to make each other angry all of the time.
Now in the event that one would have a strained relationship, he would usually ignore it and think that it would fix itself in no time. What many people do not take into consideration is that people have feelings and if those feelings are not let out and fixed immediately, then negative behavior will spring out. Of course the coaches have to fix this before the negative behavior will have a chance to get out.
Basically, they will only be giving three options to the clients depending on their assessment of the client. These choices would be to fix the relationship, just let go of it, or just create a new one with somebody else. Now the first thing that the coach would do would be to simply to talk to the client to know what is really happening.
Of course the coach cannot only look at one side of the coin as there are other people who are involved in the case. So aside from talking to the client directly, it is important that the coaches talk to the other affected parties along with the client. So for example, if the client has a problem with the wife, the client has to bring the wife.
Now when assessing the relationships of people, he has to make sure he knows what the main problem is or simply put, the root of all evil. After he has done this, then he will have to have an individual session with both of them so that he will know what they think individually. By speaking to them individually, he will be able to get them to talk more objectively.
After he has already done this, then the very next thing to do would be come up with strategies or activities. Of course one is most likely familiar with the open forum wherein both parties are allowed to say anything. However, the counsellor has to make sure that he mediates it because it can turn ugly if uncontrolled.
Now there would also be the positive reinforcement activity wherein one would have to write some positive traits about the other person and vice versa. After writing them down, they will discuss about these things. After the positive things are done, then next would be the negative things.
Of course there will be times wherein the parties just cannot reconcile anymore but do not want to terminate each other. Now in this type of situation, the coach will just suggest that they give each other a lot of space. That way, they can still visit each other but not have to make each other angry all of the time.
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