We grew up inter-reliant. This could have been due to influencing from alcoholic or narcissistic parents. We have had several narcissistic relationships as a result. Our identity revolves around what we are to other people and what we can give them. This means we are living in codependency. For our personalities to develop away from such a rut, we need to effect a number of ideas. These will help us dig down into our selves revealing our true, beautiful and authentic self.
Take the first step by creating a relationship with yourself. Julia Roberts has a part in (Runaway Bride) where in one scene she makes a major decision. She will never again let her former partners choose her eggs for her. She will henceforth choose what she likes. You need to focus on your likes, dislikes and preferences. You need to discover everything regarding what gives you happiness or unhappiness. Take time to discover healthy ways to cope or deal with things that give you unhappiness.
A crucial step is the establishment of personal boundaries. This is important because it helps one cease people pleasing. Basic forms of personal boundaries include where to draw that red line and when to say no. A good example is blatantly declining to let an individual to convince one to do something they do not want to do. This is even if such an individual manipulates one with negative comments. Enforcements of boundaries this way shall improve relationships.
Listening to and trusting ones own intuition and feelings is another step. One should observe exactly what they are feeling and thinking. They should remind themselves that they could make their own judgements and have opinions.
You need to honor your intentions and needs. Co-dependent personalities tend to make their decisions based on other peoples needs rather than for their own betterment. This means you will never fearlessly utter any word. In this regard, you need to understand your motives and ideas rather than allow someone else define these for you. It certainly helps in developing your self-respect and confidence, which means it becomes easier for you to communicate your needs to everybody.
Another import concept is the creation of positive spaces. This comes with the realization of the difference that lies between taking responsibility for other peoples problems and supporting such people in their problems. With this realization comes the creation of our individual positive spaces. It identifies boundaries where other peoples space ends and ours begins.
Finally, we have to commit ourselves to lifting our self-esteem and self-confidence. Leaving our co-dependent relationship shall take commitment and time. The more we know who we are and what we want, the less we shall let people upset us. It could lead to a year of mistakes. A second learning from and discovering such mistakes. Another year may be about practicing loving ourselves. A fourth year may center on acceptance, solidification on our inner loving kindness and awareness.
In the end, people are responsible for their own happiness. What is created in themselves can later be skilfully imparted to others. In this vibrant and dynamic world, self-love makes us all stronger.
Take the first step by creating a relationship with yourself. Julia Roberts has a part in (Runaway Bride) where in one scene she makes a major decision. She will never again let her former partners choose her eggs for her. She will henceforth choose what she likes. You need to focus on your likes, dislikes and preferences. You need to discover everything regarding what gives you happiness or unhappiness. Take time to discover healthy ways to cope or deal with things that give you unhappiness.
A crucial step is the establishment of personal boundaries. This is important because it helps one cease people pleasing. Basic forms of personal boundaries include where to draw that red line and when to say no. A good example is blatantly declining to let an individual to convince one to do something they do not want to do. This is even if such an individual manipulates one with negative comments. Enforcements of boundaries this way shall improve relationships.
Listening to and trusting ones own intuition and feelings is another step. One should observe exactly what they are feeling and thinking. They should remind themselves that they could make their own judgements and have opinions.
You need to honor your intentions and needs. Co-dependent personalities tend to make their decisions based on other peoples needs rather than for their own betterment. This means you will never fearlessly utter any word. In this regard, you need to understand your motives and ideas rather than allow someone else define these for you. It certainly helps in developing your self-respect and confidence, which means it becomes easier for you to communicate your needs to everybody.
Another import concept is the creation of positive spaces. This comes with the realization of the difference that lies between taking responsibility for other peoples problems and supporting such people in their problems. With this realization comes the creation of our individual positive spaces. It identifies boundaries where other peoples space ends and ours begins.
Finally, we have to commit ourselves to lifting our self-esteem and self-confidence. Leaving our co-dependent relationship shall take commitment and time. The more we know who we are and what we want, the less we shall let people upset us. It could lead to a year of mistakes. A second learning from and discovering such mistakes. Another year may be about practicing loving ourselves. A fourth year may center on acceptance, solidification on our inner loving kindness and awareness.
In the end, people are responsible for their own happiness. What is created in themselves can later be skilfully imparted to others. In this vibrant and dynamic world, self-love makes us all stronger.
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